Self-discipline is often discussed as the key to success, with countless plans promising transformation in 21 days, 30 days, or even 100 days. While these trends might inspire us to take action, many people soon realize that maintaining discipline is harder than it seems. From buying a stack of books we never read, to saving workout tutorials we never use, self-discipline can easily become a fleeting ambition. However, once you establish it as a habit, self-discipline can lead to personal growth and satisfaction. Here, I’ll share four simple yet effective habits that have worked for me, helping to maintain discipline in daily life.

1. Continuous Learning

01 Read More Books

As highlighted in the TED talk The Power of Reading, reading may not completely change your life, but over time, it will transform you into a thoughtful, courageous, and insightful person. I used to read only 1-2 books a month. Now, while I don’t manage to read ten books a month like some, I do comfortably maintain a habit of reading five books monthly. Over the past two years, I’ve read over 80 books, gaining new perspectives and writing much more fluidly.

02 Cultivate a Skill You Can Master

Jay Chou once said, “Having a skill is more important than a degree.” No one is born knowing their strengths. Skills that set people apart are developed through trial and error. Sometimes, what you do repeatedly becomes something you’re passionate about and master. Recently, I discovered a new interest in iPad drawing. I’ve been practicing daily and have found it to be a great way to unwind.

03 Learn English

Through the experiences of those around me, I’ve come to realize that people proficient in English have more opportunities. Whether it’s memorizing vocabulary, reading original English books, or listening to speeches, learning English broadens your horizons and enhances your skills.

2. Earning a Living

There’s a popular saying that I find true: “80% of life’s difficulties can be solved with money, and the remaining 20% can be alleviated with it.” The real discomfort of life is when you lack money at a critical moment. It’s important to improve your work performance, aim for promotions and raises, and explore side hustles to create an additional income stream. Taking action now will increase both your financial security and confidence.

3. Self-Care and Self-Respect

01 Get Enough Sleep

Late nights won’t solve your problems; they only amplify negative emotions. There’s no better way to combat life’s pressures than by getting enough rest. Early to bed is key to staying healthy.

02 Avoid Emotionally Draining Relationships

I once had a three-year relationship that was draining. Looking back, I wish I’d had the courage to walk away sooner. If you’re in a relationship that makes you uncomfortable, learn to end it. It’s better to leave than to endure emotional strain.

03 Stop Overthinking

Overthinking can be exhausting, and the root of this often lies in our inability to reconcile with ourselves. We care too much about others’ opinions, striving for perfection, and ending up trapped in guilt, regret, and anxiety. The best way to stop this is to take action. Thinking will always lead to more questions, but doing will provide answers.

04 Control What You Eat and Exercise

Limit your intake of sugar and bubble tea, and exercise regularly. When you’re healthy and fit, you avoid many problems associated with poor health and even earn admiration from others.

4. Simplifying Life

01 Don’t Argue Over Right and Wrong

As the Chinese philosopher Zeng Guofan once said, “Don’t act on impulse or speak carelessly.” In the past, I enjoyed debating over every little thing, but now I realize it’s often just a drain on energy. Save your energy for the things that truly matter in life.

02 Avoid Instant Gratification

Stop endlessly scrolling through short videos or playing games that provide temporary relief but leave you feeling empty afterward. These distractions often lead to more anxiety and confusion about the future.

03 Practice Minimalism

Happiness doesn’t come from having everything you want, but from appreciating what you have. We often impulsively buy things we don’t need, only to regret it later. By decluttering both our physical space and minds, we leave room for more meaningful things in life. Get rid of what you don’t use and make space for what truly matters.

Finally, as Laozi once said, “He who conquers others has strength; he who conquers himself is strong.” True strength comes not from defeating others, but from overcoming yourself.

Let's encourage one another on this journey.